What this friendship quality quiz measures
This am I a good friend quiz estimates how often you practice reliability, emotional presence, reciprocal effort, and trust toward friends, and how those habits may connect to adult closeness patterns. Twenty original frequency items group into four quality domains inspired by friendship research from Beverley Fehr (1996) on friendship rules and social exchange theory from George Homans (1958): reliability and support, emotional presence, reciprocal effort, and trust integrity. Each item also maps to a fear-of-intimacy stack layer so you can see whether vulnerability pull-back, trust hesitation, self-disclosure limits, or closeness anxiety feels strongest. Your friendship quality index averages these habits into a 0 to 100 score where higher means stronger reported behaviors.
Reliability and support
Following through on plans, crisis replies, remembering milestones, and avoiding last-minute cancellations without rescheduling.
Emotional presence
Listening without fixing, validating feelings, celebrating wins, and staying present during vulnerable shares.
Reciprocal effort
Initiating contact, matching effort without scorekeeping, sharing your own updates, and not pulling back when life gets busy.
Trust and integrity
Keeping confidences, addressing hurt directly, respecting boundaries, and not assuming friends will betray your openness.
How it works
Three steps from first question to your friendship quality report with fear-of-intimacy stack. Click Start Quiz to open the interactive quiz in a full-screen modal.
Answer 20 frequency items
Rate how often each friend habit shows up in your behavior, from Never to Almost always. You click Next after each answer; nothing auto-advances.
Items map to quality domains and intimacy stack
Your answers accumulate percentages for reliability, emotional presence, reciprocal effort, and trust integrity, plus four fear-of-intimacy stack layers.
View band and dual charts
Results show Room to Grow, Mixed Friendship Habits, or Stronger Friendship Habits with quality domain bars and a fear-of-intimacy stack chart. Higher quality index means stronger reported habits on this screener.
Take the am I a good friend quiz
Rate 20 statements about how you show up for friends. Your answers produce a friendship quality index from 0 to 100, a fear-of-intimacy stack index, four domain scores, and a band label for reflection or therapy conversation.
Opens in a focused modal. No account required. Results stay on screen.
What your result means
Your friendship quality index is the normalized total across all 20 items on a 0 to 100 scale, with reverse scoring on negative habit items so higher scores mean stronger friend behaviors overall. The fear-of-intimacy stack index uses the same answers mapped to vulnerability, trust, disclosure, and closeness anxiety layers where higher stack scores mean more avoidance patterns. Domain bars show endorsement rates so you can see whether reliability, emotional presence, effort, or trust drives your result most.
| Band | Index range | Typical reading |
|---|---|---|
| Room to Grow | 0 to 35 | Several friendship habits worth strengthening; stress or social anxiety may shrink bandwidth temporarily |
| Mixed Friendship Habits | 36 to 65 | Blend of strong behaviors and gaps; worth naming if friends describe you as flaky or distant |
| Stronger Friendship Habits | 66 to 100 | Frequent follow-through, listening, initiation, and trust behaviors on this screener |
What your friendship quality report looks like
After all 20 items, you get a friendship quality index from 0 to 100, a band label, four quality domain bars, and a fear-of-intimacy stack chart with vulnerability pull-back, trust hesitation, self-disclosure limits, and closeness anxiety layers. Percentages reflect how you report showing up for friends, not a verdict on your character.
What this quiz can and cannot tell you
Can tell you
- How often reliability, emotional presence, effort, and trust habits showed up in your self-report
- A friendship quality index and fear-of-intimacy stack index with domain bars
- Which quality domain or intimacy stack layer feels weakest or strongest in your current habits
- A starting point for therapy conversation about reciprocity, boundaries, and adult closeness patterns
Cannot tell you
- Whether friends like you or feel supported without their side of the story
- Whether you are a bad person or deserve fewer friendships
- Whether you have an attachment disorder or any clinical diagnosis
- What specific changes friends want without honest conversation and trusted guidance
Friendship habits, reciprocity, and the fear-of-intimacy stack
Psychologist Beverley Fehr (1996) described friendship as a voluntary bond built on mutual affection, trust, and reciprocity, with shared rules about loyalty, support, and honesty. Social exchange theorist George Homans (1958) noted that relationships feel stable when effort and emotional investment flow both ways over time. When you cancel without rescheduling, vent behind a friend's back, or pull back because closeness feels risky, many people wonder whether they are a good friend or simply protecting themselves after past hurt.
The Quiz Hub built this am I a good friend quiz as an original self-report screener inspired by those themes, not a reproduction of any single published friendship scale. Readers often compare it to sibling tools on this site. Our are we friends quiz screens ambiguity from their side: one-sided effort and vague labels. The is my friend toxic quiz measures disrespect and guilt pressure rather than your habits. The am I a people pleaser quiz covers approval seeking and boundary avoidance that can distort how you give in friendships.
| The Quiz Hub test | What it adds |
|---|---|
| Are we friends quiz | Friendship clarity index: mutual reciprocity, emotional mutuality, social recognition, mixed-signal patterns from their side |
| Am I losing my best friend quiz | Friendship drift index: communication fade, priority shift, emotional withdrawal, bond erosion |
| Am I jealous of my friend quiz | Friendship jealousy index: comparison envy, replacement fear, possessive attachment, competitive resentment |
| Is my friend toxic quiz | Toxic friendship index: emotional drain, disrespect, unreliability, guilt pressure |
| Fear of intimacy quiz | FOIS-inspired avoidance index in romantic bonds without friendship quality domains |
| This friendship quality quiz | Friendship quality index plus parallel fear-of-intimacy stack layers on your habits |
Sample item types include frequency ratings such as whether you listen without jumping in to fix, or whether you keep confidences when friends share private details. High closeness anxiety with low reciprocal effort often lands in Mixed or Room to Grow bands. Burnout, new parenthood, and depression can shrink friendship bandwidth temporarily. Read how we review quizzes in our editorial policy or browse more tools on our relationships and dating hub.
Am I a good friend quiz FAQ
What does the am I a good friend quiz measure?
Twenty original frequency items ask how often you show reliability, emotional presence, reciprocal effort, and trust behaviors toward friends. Each item also maps to a fear-of-intimacy stack layer: vulnerability pull-back, trust hesitation, self-disclosure limits, and closeness anxiety. You receive a friendship quality index from 0 to 100 where higher scores mean stronger reported habits, plus a parallel stack index.
Does a higher friendship quality index mean I am a good friend?
On this screener, a higher index means you endorsed more follow-through, listening, initiation, confidentiality, and boundary respect items. A lower index suggests growth areas on these self-report items. This quiz cannot prove how friends experience you or replace honest feedback from people who know you.
What is the fear-of-intimacy stack on this quiz?
The fear-of-intimacy stack is a second results chart inspired by FOIS-style intimacy avoidance themes from Descutner and Thelen (1991), adapted to friendship habits. Each of the 20 items maps to one of four stack layers showing how closeness anxiety may limit how you give in friendships: hiding vulnerability, testing trust, limiting disclosure, or worrying about being too much. Higher stack scores mean more avoidance patterns on these items.
How is this different from the are we friends quiz?
The are we friends quiz screens ambiguity from their side: one-sided effort, vague labels, and mixed signals with one person. This am I a good friend quiz focuses on your habits: showing up, listening, initiating, and keeping confidences. Both include a fear-of-intimacy stack, but domain labels differ.
How is this different from the is my friend toxic quiz?
The is my friend toxic quiz measures disrespect, guilt pressure, and emotional drain from someone else. This good friend quiz is a self-assessment of your reliability, emotional presence, reciprocal effort, and trust integrity. It uses a frequency frame plus a parallel fear-of-intimacy stack rather than toxic-behavior domains.
Can this quiz tell me if my friends like me?
No. The friendship quality index describes self-reported habits on this abbreviated screener. Busy seasons, social anxiety, and different friendship styles can lower scores without meaning people dislike you. Only friends can tell you how they experience the bond, ideally through honest conversation.
Who reviewed this content?
Dr. Priya Sharma, PhD, reviewed the test framing and result explanations. See our editorial policy for review standards.
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