What this relationship anxiety quiz measures
This relationship anxiety quiz estimates how often worry patterns centered on your bond showed up over the past two weeks. Twenty-four original frequency items group into four domains drawn from attachment anxiety research: reassurance seeking, jealousy scanning, future catastrophizing, and self-worth in relationship. Your relationship anxiety index averages these patterns into a 0 to 100 score with plain-language bands. It reflects your self-report, not your partner's hidden intentions.
Reassurance seeking
Needing repeated confirmation, extra texts, and reading neutral messages as rejection signals.
Jealousy scan
Comparing yourself to others, scanning for loss of interest, and threat responses to partner social time.
Future catastrophizing
Imagining breakups, worst-case scenarios after minor conflicts, and "too good to last" thinking.
Self-worth in relationship
Feeling not good enough, earning love through performance, and fearing flaws will end care.
How it works
Three steps from first question to your relationship anxiety report. Click Start Quiz to open the interactive quiz in a full-screen modal.
Answer 24 frequency items
Rate how often each worry pattern showed up in the past two weeks, from Never to Very often. You click Next after each answer; nothing auto-advances.
Items map to four worry domains
Your answers accumulate percentages for reassurance seeking, jealousy scan, future catastrophizing, and self-worth strain, plus an overall relationship anxiety index.
View band and domain bars
Results show Lower, Mixed, or Higher Relationship Anxiety with domain bars and reflection prompts. Higher bands include crisis resources.
Take the relationship anxiety quiz
Rate 24 statements about relationship worry patterns over the past two weeks. Your answers produce a relationship anxiety index from 0 to 100, four domain scores, and a band label for reflection or therapy conversation.
Opens in a focused modal. No account required. Results stay on screen.
What your result means
Your relationship anxiety index is the normalized total across all 24 items on a 0 to 100 scale, with reverse scoring on secure-response items so higher scores mean more worry overall. Domain bars show raw endorsement rates so you can see whether reassurance loops, jealousy scanning, catastrophizing, or self-worth strain drives your result most.
| Band | Index range | Typical reading |
|---|---|---|
| Lower Relationship Anxiety | 0 to 35 | Fewer worry patterns on this screener; normal nerves during conflict may still appear |
| Mixed Relationship Anxiety | 36 to 65 | Blend of secure moments and more frequent worry; worth tracking if persistent |
| Higher Relationship Anxiety | 66 to 100 | Frequent reassurance, jealousy scan, or catastrophizing; professional support may help |
What your relationship anxiety report looks like
After all 24 items, you get a relationship anxiety index from 0 to 100, a band label, and four domain bars for reassurance seeking, jealousy scan, future catastrophizing, and self-worth in relationship. Percentages reflect how you experience worry patterns, not a clinical verdict about your attachment style.
What this quiz can and cannot tell you
Can tell you
- How often relationship worry patterns showed up for you in the past two weeks
- A relationship anxiety index and four domain bars for reassurance, jealousy, catastrophizing, and self-worth
- Which domain pattern feels strongest in your current bond
- A starting point for therapy conversation or retaking after a calmer month
Cannot tell you
- Whether you have anxious attachment, GAD, or any clinical diagnosis
- Whether your partner truly loves you or will leave
- Whether your relationship is healthy or doomed without honest dialogue
- What treatment you need without a licensed clinician's evaluation
ECR anxiety, reassurance loops, and relationship worry
Psychologists Kim Bartholomew and Leonard Horowitz extended attachment theory into adult romantic bonds in the 1990s. Brennan, Clark, and Shaver published the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) scale in 1998, measuring attachment anxiety and avoidance as continuous dimensions rather than fixed types. The anxiety dimension captures fear of abandonment, need for reassurance, and hypervigilance to partner cues. Relationship anxiety in everyday language often maps to those patterns: scanning texts, catastrophizing after minor conflicts, and tying self-worth to a partner's mood.
The Quiz Hub built this relationship anxiety quiz as an original self-report screener inspired by ECR anxiety themes, not a reproduction of the published ECR instrument. Readers often compare it to sibling tools on this site. Our attachment style test screens both anxiety and avoidance in closeness. The abandonment issues quiz focuses on fear of being left and trust wounds. The compatibility test maps values overlap and lifestyle fit rather than worry frequency. The anxiety test screens generalized worry and tension over two weeks across life domains, not relationship-specific patterns.
| The Quiz Hub test | What it adds |
|---|---|
| Attachment style test | Anxiety and avoidance dimensions across closeness, not two-week worry frequency |
| Abandonment issues quiz | Fear of being left and trust wounds, broader than reassurance loops alone |
| Compatibility test | Values and lifestyle fit bars, not jealousy scanning or catastrophizing |
| Anxiety test | Generalized worry across life domains, not relationship-specific patterns |
| Bird test relationship | Partner bid responsiveness to small shares, not your internal worry patterns |
| This relationship anxiety quiz | Four-domain worry index for reassurance, jealousy scan, catastrophizing, and self-worth |
Sample item types include frequency ratings such as whether you imagined the relationship ending when nothing major happened, or whether you felt secure without needing extra confirmation. High reassurance seeking with high jealousy scan often lands in Mixed or Higher Relationship Anxiety. Sleep loss, new relationship stages, and past betrayal can spike scores temporarily. Read how we review quizzes in our editorial policy or browse more tools on our relationships and dating hub.
Relationship anxiety quiz FAQ
What is relationship anxiety?
Relationship anxiety refers to worry patterns centered on closeness: needing reassurance, scanning for rejection, catastrophizing about breakups, and tying self-worth to a partner's reactions. It overlaps with attachment anxiety in adult close relationships. This relationship anxiety quiz measures how often those patterns showed up for you in the past two weeks. It is not a clinical diagnosis.
What does this relationship anxiety quiz measure?
Twenty-four original frequency items ask how often you experienced reassurance seeking, jealousy scanning, future catastrophizing, and self-worth strain in your relationship over the past two weeks. Scores map to four domains inspired by the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) anxiety dimension (Brennan, Clark, and Shaver, 1998). You receive a relationship anxiety index from 0 to 100 and a band from Lower through Higher Relationship Anxiety.
How is this different from the attachment style test?
The attachment style test screens both anxiety and avoidance dimensions across closeness patterns. This relationship anxiety quiz focuses on worry-specific behaviors in your current bond: reassurance loops, jealousy scanning, catastrophizing, and self-worth strain. It uses a two-week frequency frame rather than broad trait agreement items.
Can this quiz diagnose anxious attachment?
No. The relationship anxiety index describes self-reported worry patterns on this abbreviated screener. Only a licensed clinician can evaluate attachment style, generalized anxiety, or related conditions through structured interviews. Online quizzes cannot confirm or deny a diagnosis.
What should I do if I get a higher relationship anxiety band?
Consider scheduling an evaluation with a licensed therapist who treats attachment, relationship anxiety, or couples concerns. Bring your result summary and describe which domain feels hardest. If you feel unsafe or in crisis, call or text 988 (US) or your local crisis line.
Who reviewed this content?
Dr. Priya Sharma, PhD, reviewed the test framing and result explanations. See our editorial policy for review standards.
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