What this friend narcissist quiz measures
This is my friend a narcissist quiz estimates how often narcissistic friend pattern signals show up with someone in your circle and how they may connect to adult closeness habits. Twenty original frequency items group into four friend domains inspired by narcissism trait research from W. Keith Campbell and Joshua Miller (2011): competitiveness and one-upmanship, empathy gaps, boundary violations and possessiveness, and conditional loyalty tied to social validation. Each item also maps to a fear-of-intimacy stack layer so you can see whether vulnerability pull-back, trust hesitation, self-disclosure limits, or closeness anxiety feels strongest. Your friend narcissism pattern index averages these patterns into a 0 to 100 score with plain-language bands.
Competitiveness and one-upmanship
Status contests, bragging to diminish you, interrupting stories, and turning friendship into a rivalry.
Empathy gaps
Dismissing your feelings, centering every conversation on them, and expecting you to cheer them up.
Boundary violations and possessiveness
Guilt trips about other friends, monitoring your plans, jealousy in your circle, and mood flips when you set limits.
Conditional loyalty and social validation
Using you for social access, going cold when you are less useful, and loyalty tied to public image.
How it works
Three steps from first question to your friend pattern report with fear-of-intimacy stack. Click Start Quiz to open the interactive quiz in a full-screen modal.
Answer 20 frequency items
Rate how often each friend pattern and closeness habit shows up when you think about this person, from Never to Almost always. You click Next after each answer; nothing auto-advances.
Items map to friend domains and intimacy stack
Your answers accumulate percentages for competitiveness, empathy gaps, boundaries, and conditional-loyalty domains, plus four fear-of-intimacy stack layers.
View band and dual charts
Results show Lower, Mixed, or Higher Friend Pattern Concern with friend domain bars and a fear-of-intimacy stack chart. Higher bands include crisis resources.
Take the is my friend a narcissist quiz
Rate 20 statements about this friend and how they treat you. Your answers produce a friend narcissism pattern index from 0 to 100, a fear-of-intimacy stack index, four domain scores, and a band label for reflection or therapy conversation.
Opens in a focused modal. No account required. Results stay on screen.
What your result means
Your friend narcissism pattern index is the normalized total across all 20 items on a 0 to 100 scale, with reverse scoring on protective items so higher scores mean more concern overall. The fear-of-intimacy stack index uses the same answers mapped to vulnerability, trust, disclosure, and closeness anxiety layers. Domain bars show endorsement rates so you can see whether competitiveness, empathy gaps, boundaries, or conditional loyalty drives your result most.
| Band | Index range | Typical reading |
|---|---|---|
| Lower Friend Pattern Concern | 0 to 35 | Fewer narcissistic friend pattern signals on this screener; normal friction or group drama may still appear |
| Mixed Friend Pattern Signals | 36 to 65 | Blend of fun moments and strain; worth tracking if persistent across seasons |
| Higher Friend Pattern Concern | 66 to 100 | Frequent competitiveness, empathy gaps, possessiveness, or conditional loyalty; professional support may help |
What your friend narcissist report looks like
After all 20 items, you get a friend narcissism pattern index from 0 to 100, a band label, four friend domain bars, and a fear-of-intimacy stack chart with vulnerability pull-back, trust hesitation, self-disclosure limits, and closeness anxiety layers. Percentages reflect how you experience this friend and adult closeness habits, not a clinical verdict about their personality.
What this quiz can and cannot tell you
Can tell you
- How often narcissistic friend pattern signals showed up for you with this person
- A friend narcissism pattern index and fear-of-intimacy stack index with domain bars
- Which friend domain or intimacy stack layer feels strongest in your current experience
- A starting point for therapy conversation about friendship wounds and adult closeness patterns
Cannot tell you
- Whether your friend has narcissistic personality disorder or any clinical diagnosis
- Whether the friendship is toxic without your own judgment and professional support
- Whether the friendship can heal without honest dialogue and mutual effort
- What treatment you need without a licensed clinician's evaluation
Friend narcissism, social circles, and the fear-of-intimacy stack
Psychologists W. Keith Campbell and Joshua Miller (2011) describe narcissism as a trait spectrum involving entitlement, grandiosity, and empathy deficits that can strain close relationships. Friendship researchers note that uneven bonds can feature rivalry disguised as banter, jealousy of other friends, and loyalty that shifts when social status changes. Friends with strong narcissistic pattern signals may compete during your wins, dismiss your stress, and guilt-trip you for spending time elsewhere, habits that can raise fear-of-intimacy stack scores in romantic bonds years later.
The Quiz Hub built this is my friend a narcissist quiz as an original self-report screener inspired by those themes, not a reproduction of the Narcissistic Personality Inventory or any single published instrument. Readers often compare it to sibling tools on this site. Our am I dealing with a narcissist quiz screens gaslighting and control in a romantic partner. The is my mom a narcissist quiz covers maternal admiration seeking and conditional warmth. The fear of intimacy quiz maps vulnerability avoidance in romantic bonds without a friendship frame.
| The Quiz Hub test | What it adds |
|---|---|
| Am I dealing with a narcissist quiz | Current partner: gaslighting, entitlement, empathy gaps, control tactics |
| Is my mom a narcissist quiz | Maternal pattern index: admiration seeking, empathy deficits, rivalry, conditional warmth |
| Was my ex a narcissist quiz | Retrospective ex patterns: idealize-devalue, blame shift, hoovering |
| Fear of intimacy quiz | FOIS-inspired avoidance index without friend narcissism domains |
| Codependency level test | Caretaking overload, boundary blur, and approval seeking across relationships |
| This friend narcissist quiz | Friend narcissism pattern index plus parallel fear-of-intimacy stack layers |
Sample item types include frequency ratings such as whether your friend guilt-trips you for seeing other people, or whether you assume new friends will drop you abruptly because this friend did when convenient. High competitiveness with high conditional-loyalty scores often lands in Mixed or Higher Friend Pattern Concern. Group trips, weddings, and career milestones can spike scores temporarily. Read how we review quizzes in our editorial policy or browse more tools on our relationships and dating hub.
Is my friend a narcissist quiz FAQ
What are narcissistic friend patterns?
In self-help and friendship psychology language, narcissistic friend patterns often describe recurring behaviors such as competitiveness, empathy gaps, jealousy of other friends, and loyalty tied to social status. Clinical narcissistic personality disorder requires a formal evaluation and is not the same as a difficult friend during stress. This is my friend a narcissist quiz measures how often those pattern signals show up with someone in your circle and how they may shape your fear-of-intimacy stack in adult bonds. It is not proof your friend has narcissistic personality disorder.
What does this friend narcissist quiz measure?
Twenty original frequency items ask how often you notice competitiveness and one-upmanship, empathy gaps, boundary violations and possessiveness, and conditional loyalty when you think about this friend. Each item also maps to a fear-of-intimacy stack layer: vulnerability pull-back, trust hesitation, self-disclosure limits, and closeness anxiety. You receive a friend narcissism pattern index from 0 to 100 and a band from Lower through Higher Friend Pattern Concern.
What is the fear-of-intimacy stack on this quiz?
The fear-of-intimacy stack is a second results chart inspired by FOIS-style intimacy avoidance themes, adapted to uneven friendship dynamics. Each of the 20 items maps to one of four stack layers showing how friend pattern signals may connect to adult closeness habits: hiding vulnerability, testing trust, limiting disclosure, or panicking when bonds deepen. The stack index summarizes those layers alongside the friend narcissism pattern index.
How is this different from the am I dealing with a narcissist quiz?
The am I dealing with a narcissist quiz screens gaslighting, entitlement, empathy gaps, and control tactics in a romantic partner. This is my friend a narcissist quiz focuses on friendship dynamics: status contests, possessiveness of your social circle, and loyalty tied to what you offer publicly. It uses a friend frequency frame plus a parallel fear-of-intimacy stack rather than partner control domains.
Can this quiz diagnose my friend with narcissistic personality disorder?
No. The friend narcissism pattern index describes self-reported pattern signals on this abbreviated screener. Group drama, busy seasons, and mismatched communication can raise scores without narcissistic personality disorder. Only a licensed clinician can evaluate personality disorders through structured interviews. Online quizzes cannot confirm or deny a diagnosis or label your friend a narcissist.
What should I do if I get a higher friend pattern band?
Consider scheduling an evaluation with a licensed therapist who treats relational trauma and friendship wounds. Reflect on whether firmer boundaries, distance, or ending the friendship supports your peace. If you feel unsafe or in crisis, call or text 988 (US) or your local crisis line.
Who reviewed this content?
Dr. Priya Sharma, PhD, reviewed the test framing and result explanations. See our editorial policy for review standards.
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