What this partner neglect quiz measures
This am I a bad husband quiz estimates how often partner neglect habits show up in your self-report. Twenty-two original frequency items group into four domains drawn from marital health research: emotional neglect, practical neglect, affection neglect, and partnership effort. Your partner neglect index averages these patterns into a 0 to 100 score with plain-language bands. A parallel fear-of-intimacy stack tracks vulnerability pull-back, trust hesitation, self-disclosure limits, and closeness anxiety while neglect habits build.
Emotional neglect
Dismissing feelings, phone distraction during talks, bandwidth excuses, and weak emotional follow-up.
Practical neglect
Forgotten plans, solo mental load, skipped chores, and work-or-hobby wins over shared duties.
Affection neglect
Thin compliments, low quality time, absent non-sexual touch, and days without curiosity about her life.
Partnership effort
Apologies without qualifiers, promised behavior follow-through, proactive repair, and celebrating her wins.
How it works
Three steps from first question to your partner neglect report. Click Start Quiz to open the interactive quiz in a full-screen modal.
Answer 22 frequency items
Rate how often each neglect pattern shows up in your marriage or long-term relationship, from Never to Almost always. You click Next after each answer; nothing auto-advances.
Items map to four neglect domains
Your answers accumulate percentages for emotional neglect, practical neglect, affection neglect, and partnership effort, plus a fear-of-intimacy stack index across four layers.
View band and domain bars
Results show Lower, Mixed, or Higher Partner Neglect with neglect domain bars and intimacy stack bars for reflection or therapy conversation.
Take the am I a bad husband quiz
Rate 22 statements about how you show up for your wife lately. Your answers produce a partner neglect index from 0 to 100, four neglect domain scores, a fear-of-intimacy stack chart, and a band label for reflection.
Opens in a focused modal. No account required. Results stay on screen.
What your result means
Your partner neglect index is the normalized total across all 22 items on a 0 to 100 scale, with reverse scoring on partnership effort items so higher scores mean more neglect signals overall. Domain bars show endorsement rates so you can see whether emotional neglect, practical neglect, affection neglect, or weak partnership effort drives your result most. The fear-of-intimacy stack chart shows whether pull-back habits overlap with neglect patterns.
| Band | Index range | Typical reading |
|---|---|---|
| Lower Partner Neglect | 0 to 35 | Fewer neglect habits on this screener; normal stress weeks may still appear |
| Mixed Partner Neglect | 36 to 65 | Blend of caring moments and neglect signals; worth honest conversation if persistent |
| Higher Partner Neglect | 66 to 100 | Frequent emotional, practical, or affection gaps; seek support and pick one behavior change |
What your partner neglect report looks like
After all 22 items, you get a partner neglect index from 0 to 100, a band label, four neglect domain bars, and a fear-of-intimacy stack chart with vulnerability pull-back, trust hesitation, self-disclosure limits, and closeness anxiety layers. Percentages reflect how you show up lately, not a label that you are a bad husband.
What this quiz can and cannot tell you
Can tell you
- How often partner neglect patterns showed up for you in your self-report
- A partner neglect index and four domain bars plus a fear-of-intimacy stack chart
- Which neglect domain feels strongest in your current husband habits
- A starting point for honest conversation, journaling, or couples therapy
Cannot tell you
- Whether you are a bad husband or a good husband without your own judgment and dialogue
- Whether your wife will feel satisfied if you change one habit alone
- Whether you have depression, trauma, or any clinical diagnosis
- What legal, financial, or custody path you need without qualified professionals
Gottman bids, mental load, and partnership effort
Researchers John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman track marital health through emotional bids for connection, repair after conflict, and shared positive experiences. Sociologist Arlie Hochschild's mental load research describes how invisible household planning often falls unevenly in couples, which can overlap with the practical neglect domain in this quiz. Psychologist John M. Gottman's work on turning toward versus turning away from bids helps explain why small daily dismissals can feel like neglect even when big crises are absent.
The Quiz Hub built this am I a bad husband quiz as an original self-report screener inspired by marital health themes, not a published clinical instrument. Readers often compare it to sibling tools on this site. Our am I the problem quiz screens conflict responsibility during fights rather than daily neglect frequency. The fear of intimacy quiz measures closeness avoidance habits rather than husband-specific neglect patterns. The signs your marriage is over quiz screens spousal strain and separation thoughts rather than your own neglect habits.
| The Quiz Hub test | What it adds |
|---|---|
| Am I the problem quiz | Conflict responsibility index: accountability, defensiveness, repair, empathy gaps |
| Fear of intimacy quiz | FOIS-inspired closeness avoidance across relationships, not husband neglect frequency |
| Marriage strain quiz | Spousal disconnection and separation thoughts, not your own neglect habits |
| Bird test relationship | Partner bid responsiveness observation, not husband self-report neglect domains |
| Relationship test | Six broad partnership health domains, not a partner neglect index with intimacy stack |
| This partner neglect quiz | Partner neglect index plus fear-of-intimacy stack for husband emotional, practical, and affection habits |
Sample item types include frequency ratings such as whether you change the subject when she wants to talk about feelings, or whether you follow through on behavior changes you promised after a fight. High emotional neglect with high practical neglect often lands in Mixed or Higher Partner Neglect. Elevated fear-of-intimacy stack layers may mean you are pulling back from vulnerability while neglect habits build, which couples therapy can address separately from shame spirals. Read how we review quizzes in our editorial policy or browse more tools on our relationships and dating hub.
Am I a bad husband quiz FAQ
Am I a bad husband or just going through a stressful season?
Both can look similar on paper. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman describe marital health through emotional bids, repair after conflict, and shared load, while work stress, new parenting, or grief can temporarily thin attention without meaning you stopped caring. This am I a bad husband quiz measures how often emotional neglect, practical neglect, affection neglect, and weak partnership effort show up in your self-report. It is a reflection tool, not a verdict on your character.
What does this partner neglect quiz measure?
Twenty-two original frequency items ask how often you dismiss feelings, drop practical duties, thin affection, or skip repair follow-through in your marriage or long-term relationship. Scores map to four partner neglect domains plus a parallel fear-of-intimacy stack inspired by the Fear-of-Intimacy Scale (Descutner and Thelen, 1991). You receive a partner neglect index from 0 to 100 and a band from Lower through Higher Partner Neglect.
How is this different from the am I the problem quiz?
The am I the problem quiz screens conflict habits like blame-shifting, defensiveness, and missed repair during fights. This am I a bad husband quiz focuses on daily neglect patterns: emotional dismissal, chore and mental load drop-off, affection gaps, and weak partnership effort between conflicts. It uses a husband self-report frequency frame plus a fear-of-intimacy stack chart rather than conflict responsibility bars alone.
Can this quiz label me a bad husband?
No. The partner neglect index describes self-reported habits on this abbreviated screener. Only you, your wife, and qualified professionals can weigh context, intent, and change capacity. Online quizzes cannot confirm that you are a bad husband or predict whether your marriage will survive.
What should I do if I get a higher partner neglect band?
Consider scheduling an evaluation with a licensed couples therapist or individual counselor who treats marital distress. Bring your result summary and describe which domain feels hardest to change. If you feel unsafe or in crisis, call or text 988 (US) or your local crisis line.
Who reviewed this content?
Dr. Priya Sharma, PhD, reviewed the test framing and result explanations. See our editorial policy for review standards.
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