What this Feys others acceptance scale measures
This page does not administer Dr. Fay's published clinical instrument or any trademarked Feys clinic battery, and it cannot diagnose social anxiety, attachment disorders, or mood conditions from one score. It measures how often you noticed habits clinicians discuss when belonging pain strains daily life, organized four ways: trusting inclusion when invites, praise, or saved seats could be received as connection instead of automatic pity plots; rejection scanning when delayed texts, quiet hallways, or neutral faces triggered exile stories before clarifying questions; worth without unanimity when self-value stayed separate from every peer vote, follower count, or relative shrug; and Feys scale limits when unofficial screeners replaced therapy, skipped clinicians when spirals stuck, or ignored 988 when hopelessness peaked. You answer 22 how-often statements about the past month, with reverse-worded items so one clarifying question, boundary choice, therapist booking, or crisis lookup cannot hide frequent rejection scanning on other days. Your responses also feed a second chart on closeness and trust habits, because shame about belonging sometimes blocks repair. The total becomes an index from 0 to 100 where higher means more frequent reported others-acceptance strain on this screener. Your responses suggest intensity to discuss with support; they do not prove you must mistrust every friend forever.
Trusting inclusion
How often inclusion bids landed as connection instead of pity traps.
Rejection scanning
How often neutral cues became permanent exile stories.
Worth without unanimity
How often self-worth stayed separate from every approval vote.
Feys scale limits
How often quiz humility, therapy planning, and 988 awareness beat license myths.
How it works
Answer 22 frequency items
Rate each statement from Never to Very often for the past month. Tap Next after each answer.
Answers sort into four domains
Each answer feeds one of four others-acceptance groups, and every item also feeds a closeness and trust layer.
See your index and charts
You get a 0 to 100 index, a band, and two bar charts you can bring to a therapist or counselor.
Take the Feys Others Acceptance Scale
Answer 22 short statements to see your others-acceptance strain index, four domain bars, and a closeness and trust chart.
What your result means
Your index is the average of all 22 answers, scaled from 0 to 100, with reverse-worded items flipped first. Higher means more frequent reported rejection-scanning or belonging-doubt habits on this screener. Read Feys scale limits with trusting-inclusion bars before you treat any total as diagnostic proof. Persistent hopelessness or safety worries deserve crisis support, not only breathing tips.
| Band | Index range | Typical reading |
|---|---|---|
| Lower reported others-acceptance strain | 0 to 35 | Fewer frequent rejection-scanning, inclusion-doubt, or unanimous-approval habits in the past month. |
| Mixed reported others-acceptance strain | 36 to 65 | Some trusting stretches alongside rejection spikes, approval scorekeeping, or limit myths on other days. |
| Higher reported others-acceptance strain | 66 to 100 | Frequent rejection scanning, inclusion doubt, or approval scorekeeping; professional support and crisis lines may help more than another solo retake. |
Tips at a glance
A quick takeaway graphic with topic tips (not your personal quiz scores). Start the quiz for your index, bands, and charts.
What this quiz can and cannot tell you
Can tell you
- Name rejection scanning and approval scorekeeping in plain language for therapy intake
- Highlight when inclusion trust, clarifying questions, or crisis outreach habits are missing
- Support honest belonging conversations with clinicians without forcing one online label
- Offer a baseline if you retake after one week of ask-before-assuming practice
Cannot tell you
- Diagnose social anxiety, attachment disorders, or mood conditions from one score
- Replace licensed Fay or Feys instruments, couples therapy, or workplace mediation
- Certify that you mastered belonging skills or social IQ from one bar chart
- Substitute for crisis care when hopelessness or safety fears feel urgent
Inclusion bids, rejection scanning, and quiz-not-licensed limits
Traffic to others-acceptance screeners mixes real loneliness with mind-reading habits that spread faster in feeds than in quiet hallways. Clinicians discuss how chronic rejection scanning can track stress, trauma, neurodivergent social cues, or unmet belonging needs even when someone functions well in other roles. This online screener uses that reflection lens unofficially; it cannot replace interview-based assessment or tell you which therapy pace fits without your history and safety context.
Trusting inclusion covers staying when someone saves a seat, letting praise land briefly, and declining spirals that treat every hello as mockery. Rejection scanning covers tallying likes, treating slow texts as exile, and forgetting schedules before stories. Worth without unanimity covers boundaries when disapproval is possible and separating follower counts from whether you deserve rest.
Real people mix bars. You might score high rejection scanning with strong limit outreach, which can mean pain yet you still plan therapist visits instead of stalking acquaintances. You might score high worth strain with moderate inclusion trust, which often describes approval hunger yet you still ask clarifying questions sometimes. Reverse items catch overconfidence: staying at gatherings, clarifying questions, boundary choices, counselor bookings, and crisis lookups should not inflate a strain index meant to track frequency of scanning and doubt.
Pair results with siblings on this hub instead of forcing one label story. Our Fay's acceptance of others scale sibling tracks contempt toward difference frequency with separate wording, not belonging-scanning habits here. Our fear of negative evaluation of appearance FNAES covers appearance scrutiny rather than general inclusion bids on this page. Our feedback sensitivity scale emphasizes critique reactivity rather than others-acceptance frequency here. Browse the mental health and clinical test hub for more YMYL screeners with study-not-diagnosis framing.
Higher scores mean more frequent self-reported others-acceptance strain on this tool, not proof you must isolate forever. Bring domain bars to intake so sessions start with examples, not shame. If hopelessness spikes, skip online surveillance and prioritize 988 or a clinician. Retake after one week of ask-before-assuming practice when safe and compare bars, not only the total.
| Test | Focus |
|---|---|
| Fay's acceptance of others scale | Contempt toward difference and curiosity-over-dunking habits rather than rejection-scanning toward your own belonging here |
| Fear of negative evaluation of appearance FNAES | Appearance scrutiny habits rather than general inclusion-bid trust frequency on this scale |
| Feedback sensitivity scale | Critique and feedback reactivity rather than others-acceptance strain frequency on this page |
Feys Others Acceptance Scale FAQ
What does the Feys others acceptance scale measure?
It measures how often you noticed trusting inclusion, rejection scanning, worth-without-unanimity habits, and Feys limit habits during the past month. You get an index from 0 to 100 plus four domain bars. Your responses suggest self-reported frequency for reflection, not a clinical diagnosis.
Is this the same as Dr. Fay's acceptance-of-others scale?
No. Published acceptance instruments use trained clinicians and validated item banks. This page is an unofficial Feys-inspired screener focused on belonging and rejection-scanning habits with its own stems. It is not Fay or Feys certification and not a licensed evaluation.
How is this different from the Fay acceptance-of-others quiz on this site?
The Fay-inspired sibling tracks judgment and contempt toward people who differ. This Feys-inspired page tracks how often you doubt inclusion, scan for rejection, or tie worth to unanimous approval. Stems do not overlap; use each screener separately.
Does a high score mean nobody will ever accept me?
A high score means you reported frequent rejection-scanning or belonging-doubt habits here. It is not a life sentence or social death certificate. If shame or isolation disrupts sleep or safety, contact a licensed clinician or call or text 988 (US) when crisis feels immediate.
What should I do if my score is high or I feel hopeless?
Call or text 988 (US) if crisis feels immediate, or contact a licensed clinician with domain examples from your results. Prioritize support over retakes when hopelessness or safety fears spike.
Who reviewed this scale?
Dr. Elena Vasquez, PhD reviewed the YMYL framing, crisis resources, unofficial instrument limits, sibling separation from Fay and feedback-sensitivity wording, and result explanations. See our editorial policy for review standards.
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